On my clothing manifesting wish list is a bathrobe. I have one, made out of this fluffy polyester material and would like to trade it for one in a natural material. So recently I went into a store and saw a bathrobe made out of silk in one of my favorite colors. I came only in two sizes. I tried on small. When the owner approached me, I asked her before I looked into the mirror: "What do you think, does it look too big?" There it was:
She hesitated ever so slightly and then said: "it looks great." The bathrobe felt too big and actually looked too big. My inner response was: "She lied to me. She just wants to sell her product." That is quite an accusation and an assumption. Then I thought about it more and "it looks great," can be simply interpreted as a vague answer. After all she didn't say: "it looks great on you."
You may have experienced this slight hesitation in people's verbal reaction and facial expression when asking them for advice. It happens when there are conflicting motives like wanting to sell something and to give an honest opinion or wanting to help but not wanting to hurt someone's feelings.
I will try to catch this moment of hesitation next time it presents itself to me. Then I could say: "It seemed as if you were hesitating for a moment. I really appreciate your feedback whatever it may be."
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